Those Five Little Words

It was an innocent statement.

Someone had stumbled upon my blog and had read a few posts. This person is involved with line of duty deaths and honoring those who sacrificed for others. I received a message on social media. After relating some similar life experiences, I saw those five little words that evoke a wide range of emotions. Those words that could be dangerous if you aren't ready for what comes next.

These five words can make a person cry, smile, laugh, or get a far away look in the eyes. For most people, these five words make their day. It's proof someone cares. They are a new chance to make sure a life continues.

What are these magical five words that I love to hear but could be regretted by the person uttering them?

"Tell me about your husband."

Those words start my mind swirling. Do I start with what I know of his younger years? Do I begin with how we met? Should I tell how he would help anyone he could, anonymously if possible? Maybe you need to hear how much he cherished me or how hard he worked to provide for his family. I definitely have to tell you about his adventurous side and how much of a daredevil he was.

One thing's for sure - I will tell you as much as I can for as long as you want to listen.

See, when you ask me about my husband, or ask anyone about the person they are missing, you acknowledge their existence. You are saying you care enough to listen. By saying "Tell me about your person.", you are giving a chance for the name to be said, for that person to be remembered. Reliving those moments also helps bring a little more peace to my heart.

If you don't know what to say to someone who is grieving, those five words are a good place to start. You could even get it down to four.

Tell me about your husband.

Tell me about your son.

Tell me about your daughter.

Tell me about your mom.

Tell me about your dad.

Tell me about your wife.

Tell me about your brother.

Tell me about your sister.

Tell me about him.

Tell me about her.

Only say them if you are ready to spend some time. Once you speak the words, listen with your heart. You have no idea how much those few words can impact a life.